The Final Zone

The ramblings of a nerdy bisexual twentysomething socialist wannabe-author.

You'll find a lot of talk about Doctor Who, bisexuality and then a mix of general fandom stuff here. (Warning: May contain some ranting.)

I'm lucky enough to have a wonderful girlfriend/soulmate, Caitlin, who makes my life far richer. Once she described as "like a very sensual monkey." I'm strangely proud of this.

And Grace Holloway thinks I'm pretty.





bialogue-group:

Polish journalist to be deported by the USA due to his bisexuality
Ivo Widlak is a Polish-born bisexual man who’s been in the US since 2001 and has been married to his bisexual wife Lale for 10 years. After getting angry about an article he had written about some corruption, someone in the Polish community of Chicago informed the office of Immigration that he was a homosexual and not really married to his wife. He and his wife very angrily deny this.
They are happy to explain over and over (and over and over and over) that it is true they are both openly bisexual. And that as bisexual people they fell in love and are have chosen to be happily and monogamously married. But still the Immigration people persist in saying they are gay and the marriage is a fake.
This truly seems to be a case of the law not understanding or respecting the reality of the bisexual orientation. If Ivo was in a same sex relationship, he would not be deported for the Obama administration has stated that foreigners who are same-sex partners of American citizens can be included under an Obama administration policy suspending deportations of some immigrants who pose no security risk. If Ivo was straight he would also be safe, but because he and his wife are both bisexual their marriage, love and ability to live in the US is threatened.
Read More Here 
Yet again — So much 4 all that “Heterosexual Privilege” that all bisexual have … hmmmm?
Things To Do:
HELP US GET THE WORD OUT - they have been trying to do this in Silence & Secret. So reblog, share, tweet and signal boost
Go to your GSA, your SAGA’s, your LGBT Centers, all the LGBTQ Groups you give your money and time too. Make sure they know about this. Show them the actual definitions of Bisexuality. Make sure they stop making snide jokes about how Bisexuals all have “Privilege” … about how we are all just “in the closet” … how we are binary and transphobic and all the other sly digs and daily erasure we suffer. Make them listen to us and see us and include us.
If you are in the USA please join the BiNet USA Group on Facebook where announcements are being made as they come in
If you are in Chicagoland please join on Facebook: Bisexual Queer Alliance Chicago + Chicago Bisexual Queer Meetup on Meetup: Chicago Bisexual / Queer Community
And watch this and the other Bisexual Blogs … we will Post more information as we get it.
Thank You All

This is just sickening. Really hope that something can be done, because this is blatant, ugly discrimination, on the part of the git who reported them, and on the part of the authorities who didn’t immediately tell him/her to fuck off and mind their own business, instead actually pursuing this insane course of action. I’ll be sharing this around on various sites to try and spread the word.

bialogue-group:

Polish journalist to be deported by the USA due to his bisexuality

Ivo Widlak is a Polish-born bisexual man who’s been in the US since 2001 and has been married to his bisexual wife Lale for 10 years. After getting angry about an article he had written about some corruption, someone in the Polish community of Chicago informed the office of Immigration that he was a homosexual and not really married to his wife. He and his wife very angrily deny this.

They are happy to explain over and over (and over and over and over) that it is true they are both openly bisexual. And that as bisexual people they fell in love and are have chosen to be happily and monogamously married. But still the Immigration people persist in saying they are gay and the marriage is a fake.

This truly seems to be a case of the law not understanding or respecting the reality of the bisexual orientation. If Ivo was in a same sex relationship, he would not be deported for the Obama administration has stated that foreigners who are same-sex partners of American citizens can be included under an Obama administration policy suspending deportations of some immigrants who pose no security risk. If Ivo was straight he would also be safe, but because he and his wife are both bisexual their marriage, love and ability to live in the US is threatened.

Read More Here


Yet again — So much 4 all that Heterosexual Privilege that all bisexual have … hmmmm?


Things To Do:

  • HELP US GET THE WORD OUT - they have been trying to do this in Silence & Secret. So reblog, share, tweet and signal boost
  • Go to your GSA, your SAGA’s, your LGBT Centers, all the LGBTQ Groups you give your money and time too. Make sure they know about this. Show them the actual definitions of Bisexuality. Make sure they stop making snide jokes about how Bisexuals all have “Privilege” … about how we are all just “in the closet” … how we are binary and transphobic and all the other sly digs and daily erasure we suffer. Make them listen to us and see us and include us.
  • If you are in the USA please join the BiNet USA Group on Facebook where announcements are being made as they come in
  • If you are in Chicagoland please join on Facebook: Bisexual Queer Alliance Chicago + Chicago Bisexual Queer Meetup on Meetup: Chicago Bisexual / Queer Community
  • And watch this and the other Bisexual Blogs … we will Post more information as we get it.
Thank You All

This is just sickening. Really hope that something can be done, because this is blatant, ugly discrimination, on the part of the git who reported them, and on the part of the authorities who didn’t immediately tell him/her to fuck off and mind their own business, instead actually pursuing this insane course of action. I’ll be sharing this around on various sites to try and spread the word.




imsohappyrightnow:

This seems to sum up the difference between bisexuality and polysexuality (including pansexuality, trisexuality etc.) pretty well as well as explain the concept of bisexuality in of itself. A really lovely, clear read. Worth giving a shot if you’re a little confused about the whole thing.

This sums up nothing, because it’s based on a false and insulting premise, and the author has refused to do a single bit of research into what the ‘bi’ actually means, instead choosing to go on the attack. The author is either wilfully blind, or a complete idiot.

blood-violence-selfdestruct:

1. What is pansexuality?

Pansexuality is the ability to be sexually attracted to all genders. Often, being pansexual is accompanied with being panromantic, but it’s not always the case. I keep trying to think of a way to make it even simpler, but that’s it.

2. Isn’t that the same as bisexuality?

No. Bisexuality is defined as being attracted to the same gender as the bisexual person and a different gender than the bisexual person, including all variations of in between. Pansexuality is all the genders.

3. Why not just call yourself bisexual instead of taking a word you have to explain all the time?

Well, it’s different for everyone. Because bisexuality is not inherently binary (yes, that’s right), some people are comfortable with a bisexual label. Other people are not, and feel that “bisexual” is too constricting a term for what we well. Hence, pansexuality.

4. So you’re a whore/you’re easy/you sleep with everyone?

Just because a pansexual person can be attracted to anyone doesn’t mean they are attracted to everyone. Think about that.

5. So does that mean you’ll sleep with me?

Not with that attitude.

6. So does that mean you’ll have a threesome with me and my boyfriend/girlfriend?

Lots of pansexuals enjoy threesomes. So do a lot of bisexuals, homosexuals, and heterosexuals. But it depends on circumstances, no my sexuality.

7. Why do some people fake being bisexual/pansexual/polysexual for attention?

Oh, gods, talk about a loaded question! Um, I find that a lot of teenage girls tend to think it’s “cool” to be bi/poly/pan. They will pretend to like girls as well as boys, and be very vocal and flamboyant about it. However, you’ll find those teenage girls tend to only have boyfriends and will never express an attraction to other girls, despite what they say. They may have had a fling with a girl over the summer before school, but you’ll never be told a name nor be shown a picture, despite how much you ask.

These types of pretend-queers are extremely frustrating to actual pan/poly/bi people, because pretenders invalidate our legitimate identities and make FAQs like this one a necessity. People who are actually queer are usually much more hesitant about coming out and being open about our sexuality, because in case you haven’t noticed lately, queers tend to be treated like shit.

Even in the queer* community, people who are not monosexual tend to be invalidated or told that they’re “cowards for not coming out fully” or that they’re “really straight” and just “want the best of both worlds.” This is extremely upsetting, as I’m sure you can imagine.

8. Pansexuality doesn’t exist! You’re just looking for attention!

Go fuck yourself! :D

9. You didn’t answer a question about pansexuality that I still have!

Then feel free to hit me up in my ask! I am actually a really friendly person, and I love helping people. So long as you’re nice to me, I’ll be nice to you, and if you’re really truly sincerely honest about learning more and becoming a more knowledgeable and accepting person, I will answer everything and anything at all! No question is “too insignificant” or “too stupid.”

Marvellous! Explains the differences between Pan and Bi without disparaging either! It sounds like a simple thing for people to do, but it’s surprisingly rare! Thank you, OP, you’ve done a great service, and I hope this gets the reblogs it deserves.





bialogue-group:

Some People Area Bi. Get Over It! official from Stonewall
Well sing hallelujah! Some people Finally do actually respond to their constituents (hint, hint IDAHO), get over themselves and admit that bisexuals are actually part of the LGBTQ+ community! Only took what, 5+ years? *snark* *snark* *snark*

From Stonewall’s answer to the government consultation on marriage:
“Question 8: The Government is not considering opening up civil partnerships to opposite-sex couples. Do you agree or disagree with this proposal? 
This is a matter for heterosexual couples and Stonewall would recommend that the Government consults with them and stakeholder organisations representing them.”
They might make nice little banners a few years too late, but Stonewall still doesn’t want to represent us where it actually counts. They consider anything to do with opposite-sex couples to be a heterosexual matter, and that’s unlikely to change. And if you contact them and tell them that this isn’t acceptable, as I did at the time, they’ll point to the fact that they’re making badges. It really is like talking to a wall.

bialogue-group:

Some People Area Bi. Get Over It! official from Stonewall

Well sing hallelujah! Some people Finally do actually respond to their constituents (hint, hint IDAHO), get over themselves and admit that bisexuals are actually part of the LGBTQ+ community! Only took what, 5+ years? *snark* *snark* *snark*

From Stonewall’s answer to the government consultation on marriage:

“Question 8: The Government is not considering opening up civil partnerships to opposite-sex couples. Do you agree or disagree with this proposal?

This is a matter for heterosexual couples and Stonewall would recommend that the Government consults with them and stakeholder organisations representing them.”

They might make nice little banners a few years too late, but Stonewall still doesn’t want to represent us where it actually counts. They consider anything to do with opposite-sex couples to be a heterosexual matter, and that’s unlikely to change. And if you contact them and tell them that this isn’t acceptable, as I did at the time, they’ll point to the fact that they’re making badges. It really is like talking to a wall.




bialogue-group:

[UK]: On February 15th, 2012 BiUK - in collaboration with the Open University - launched The Bisexuality Report

Bisexual people are included in the acronym LGBT but often our issues and circumstances are not separately understood in practice. This is despite clear evidence that we experience discrimination in education, in society, and in the workplace and that we are more at risk of mental health problems than lesbian, gay, or heterosexual people.

Bisexual people are subject to a specific form of discrimination - “biphobia” - because we do not fit the simplistic “you’re either gay or straight” model of sexuality.

This in-depth report summarises national and international evidence and draws out useful recommendations for future bisexual inclusion in many different settings.